13 Mayıs 2015 Çarşamba



Are you unknowingly giving out negative signals with your body language? Are your gestures affecting the effectiveness of your communication? Learn the 5 blunders you should avoid as a presenter.

The way we are today…….
Thousands of years of human evolution has refined the way we express ourselves. The words we use are cultured. Our manners are learnt. Our gestures are subdued. Yet deep inside us, we are still animals.
When we disagree or get impatient, we may feel like thumping and stomping on the ground to express disgust. But, in a meeting room we settle for a polite drumming on the table. When we are afraid, we may want to run away from the scene. But, if we are in a conference room, we just glance at the exit and turn our toes towards the door.
These subdued expressions of our inner emotions are called micro expressions.  Most of the times, these expressions may not last more than a few seconds or even milliseconds. Yet, as humans, we understand these expressions extremely well.
You may not be aware of your own micro expressions.
As a presenter you may not be able to understand all your expressions and their meaning, because of the level of subtlety that has crept into our communication. Here we list the 5 blunders you might be committing without your knowledge.
They all have their origins in our primal instinct as animals.
1. Stepping back while seeking a decision
When you step back or move away from your audience while asking for a decision, you are expressing fear. Deep inside, you may be urging to run away in case your audience get angry or unhappy with your  request. But, the micro expression you settled for is moving a few steps backward. This reflects your lack of conviction. So, you naturally don’t get a positive response. If you are afraid of speaking in public, this could be a movement you make unconsciously.
To avoid this body language blunder,...
Next time you want to ask for business, take a step forward and ask with conviction. Your confidence will assure your audience and you’ll maximize your chances of getting a positive response.
2. Crossing your arms across your chest, when facing questions
Arms Crossed Blunder Image

In the prehistoric times, you crossed your arms to protect your heart when someone attacked you. Even today, crossing your arms across your chest is seen as a defensive gesture.  
When you use this gesture while facing your audience questions, you indicate lack of self-confidence and have a structure to handle tough questions.
Next time you answer a question...
When you answer a question, uncross your arms and answer with a smile. The same answer sounds so convincing with this simple alteration of body language.
3. Pointing fingers at audience
Finger Pointing Blunder Image
In the prehistoric times - when you hated someone, you stabbed that person with a spear. Today, the spear is disguised as a pointed finger (which resembles a spear). When you point a finger with poking motion, your audience gets defensive. You unnecessarily trigger hatred and negativity.
In the same way, waving your forefinger up and down indicates, “I want to beat you with a stick”.
Watch for bad habits...
You may be using these gestures out of habit. But, when you are on stage, these gestures may make your audience perceive a threat.  Since verbal communication forms just 7% of your communication, your words may not be able to recover the damage caused by your gestures.

4. Hands on your hips

Arms akimbo Blunder Image
When you stand with your arms akimbo, you unconsciously say, “See! I am bigger than you”.  It puts your audience on the defensive and makes it extremely hard to get their involvement.

The next time you present...

If you use this gesture during a question answer session, you will be seen as aggressive and unsympathetic. Unless your intention is to control an unruly audience, don’t stand with your hands on your hips.

5. Pacing restlessly when presenting

Feet Pacing Presentation Body Language Image
Some presenters have a habit of pacing up and down as they talk. Their pace increases when the topic gets more exciting. There is nothing wrong with this, until they cross the limit.
When you pace the room, your audience may find it difficult to process the information you put up on your slide. Your constant movement distracts their attention. Unless your movement has a specific purpose, restrain from pacing across the room or oscillating like a pendulum.
When you show a complex visual, stay put till your audience absorbs the information fully.

To understand your presentation body language:

Seek your friend’s help to record your next presentation (of course, the camera should be focused on you). Watch for the 5 negative body language blunders we discussed above.  Practice alternate behavior where appropriate.

1. What is one body movement you do when you are afraid of speaking in public?
2. What do we do when we don’t like the person we are speaking to?

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